Mindfulness

When is the last time you stopped and really smelledmoment and observe the event.
the roses? Not recently, if you’re a chronicNext, as you observe the event, silently describe to
multi-tasker, as so many people are today. Life is tooyourself in words exactly what you are observing.
hurried for roses. Modern living demands keeping asKeep your attention completely focused on what you
many balls in the air at once as possible. Electronicare observing and describing in the moment. Using all
technology compounds the problem, addicting us toyour senses, participate actively, giving yourself as rich
instant information and communication.and detailed a description of the experience as
It’s easy to mistake this rush to overload forpossible. Include what the event causes you to see,
productivity. But UCLA researcher Dr. Russell Poldrackhear, feel, smell, or taste. Note any other sensations it
cautions that multi-tasking has its pitfalls. “Wegenerates in your body. Concentrate. Do this for two
have to be aware that there is a cost to the way thatto three minutes at first, longer if you wish. As you
our society is changing, that humans are not built tobecome more practiced at it, you can lengthen the
work this way. We’re really built to focus. Andtime you spend being Mindful.
when we sort of force ourselves to multitask,Just as important as what you do during mindfulness is
we’re driving ourselves to perhaps be lesswhat you do not do. Do not elaborate on what you
efficient in the long run even though it sometimes feelsare observing and describing. If you are watching a
like we’re being more efficient.”bird in flight, do not go beyond describing it and spin off
This article describes a very different kind ofinto thinking how the bird is so free, you feel like a
productivity. It’s called Mindfulness, a mental skillprisoner in your marriage, you wish you could soar like
that once learned, lets you to relate to your entirethat, and… No! Just stick with what you see,
world in a way that not only enhances truehear, and experience in the moment—details of
productivity, but makes you happier doing it.the bird and the sky—the thrill you experience
Training in Mindfulness can benefit many aspects ofseeing it fly—the warm wind blowing through
living. It sharpens your attention, concentration andyour hair and across your arms. That is as far as you
ability to focus. That means you can use it to helpgo when you are being Mindful. You do not let your
interrupt unproductive mental chatter and move moremind wander into associating what you are seeing
effectively towards your goals. Mindfulness offersnow with past memories, or thoughts about the future.
other rewards as well. To take just one example,If that happens, which it sometimes will, don’t
once you learn how to switch into the Mindfulnessget upset with yourself, just gently redirect your
mode of thinking, any time you choose you have atattention back to the present event.
your command a refreshing way to take a break fromFinally, in the practice of Mindfulness, do not judge
the mental pressures that preoccupy so much of ourwhether what you are observing and describing is
waking lives. Using Mindfulness just for fun lets usultimately good or bad. Being judgmental is not part of
reclaim what children do naturally, see the worldbeing Mindful. Judging can be appropriate if you are
through fresh eyes and delight in the wonder of things.problem solving or planning some action. Mindfulness
As is true in acquiring any skill—riding a bike,however, is only about observing and describing. You
driving a car, communicating effectively—learningdo not judge anything or try to change anything. With
how to be Mindful takes practice. I can say fromMindfulness, the idea is to stick with what you are
personal experience though, that the learning processobserving and experience it as it is. If what you are
is both interesting and rewarding. I thoroughly enjoyed it.observing feels pleasant, that’s easy. If it is
Here is how it works. When being Mindful, youunpleasant, you learn to tolerate a negative event while
intentionally shift your mental focus away fromstill only observing and describing it. Learning to be
whatever had been going on in your mind and insteadMindful even when you are dealing with personal
observe one single, here-and-now event. The eventfeelings that are creating problems for you has
can be anything, for example, a picture on the wall, aimportant implications for learning to handle those
tree on the path where you’re walking, peoplefeelings more productively.
coming and going on the street outside your office.To sum up, the following are guidelines for what to do
You can even do Mindfulness by observing a feeling.when you want to practice Mindfulness:
But for starters it’s best to practice MindfulnessObserve only one event at a time.
by shifting your attention to an external event,Concentrate. Keep your attention focused on the
something occurring in your environment as opposedevent.
to something coming from inside you. Start with aDescribe the event to yourself in detail.
simple external event, say observing a tree. AsActively participate. Use all your senses to observe
experiencing Mindfulness becomes increasingly familiar,and describe.
pick more complex, but still external, events. Once youDo not elaborate on the event by associating it with
are adept at achieving a state of Mindfulness withother thoughts.
external events, then you can practice focusing on andIf your mind wanders, simply guide it back to the
dealing with internal feelings. When you are practicingpresent event.
this new form of concentrated attention, if your mindDo not judge the event as good or bad. Just observe
wanders, don’t worry, just gently redirect yourand describe it.
attention back to what you are focused on.I hope I’ve interested you enough to want to
The first step in becoming Mindful is always carefullearn more about the many benefits of Mindfulness. I
observation. As you observe the event you selected,explain in much more detail how to do it in my book
be it pleasant, neutral, or uncomfortable, do not try toand on my CD, Take-Charge Living: How To Recast
change anything. That is very important.DuringYour Role in Life…One Scene At A Time.
Mindfulness, you do not analyze, solve problems, makeAnother detailed description can be found in a book
decisions, or plan action. You simply stay in the presenttitled Depressed & Anxious, by Dr. Thomas Marra.