The Games That Inmates Play

Inmate's having nothing to do, except think up newfor sharing her life with him on paper and that she is a
con's to play on unsuspecting, friends, family andcaring, sensitive, loving Mother to her children and that
pen-pals. I can't cover all of them but, will attempt toshe has helped him realize that someday, if he is lucky
give you enough, you should be able to tell if you are ahe hopes to have a family.
victim of these scams. Some of you will not believeEventually, the inmate would have the women sending
that you are being scammed, that is how good somein money and packages for him. This particular Inmate
of these inmates are, until it is too late and you haveonly used this scam for himself, but other inmate's
lost something of value.would have them send money and package to other
The first scam starts out as a pen pal. This scam wasinmate's, make three-way phone calls and forward
brought to my attention while working first watch, in aletters to other gang members in other institutions. But
housing unit. First watch is from 10:00 PM to 6:00AM.back to the original story, after a time he would have a
Part of the job requirement is to process the inmatesphoto taken of himself and send it to the women
outgoing mail. As part of that process, we open andinvolved and ask her to send photo's of her, or of her
scan every letter to look for codes or notes, to identifyand her children, a family photo. The inmate would
letters that may indicate criminal activity. Whileshave, get a haircut, have his clothes cleaned and
completing this task, I noticed that one inmate hadpressed and appear as the clean cut all American boy.
mailed about ten letters to ten different females. NowHe would lavish compliments on her about how
these letters were hand written but were identicalbeautiful she and her family are, how lucky she is to
except for the name of the women involved, and thehave such a family and how he looks at the photo at
addresses. After several nights of processing the mailnight, just before going to sleep, and dreams of his life
and every night ten additional letters were going out, allafter prison and his hopes and desires of having a
again handwritten, with different names and addresses.wife and family.
Usually, the first part of these letters were andHe will send Birthday cards, Christmas cards and
introduction stating that he normally does not writecards just saying thanks for your friendship. He'll tell her
letters to people he does not know, but he had readit took him hours upon hours to draw the card. In reality,
her letter in a pen-pal magazine and was so movedhe would trade stamps or other things of value in a
by it that he just had to write her. He will then tell herprison and have another inmate make the card from
that he is an inmate and has no family or friends tohim. The inscription inside the card would usually contain
correspond with.a poem, again taken from a magazine, and a
He will tell her about his commitment offense, thepersonalized message just for her. By this time the
reason he is in prison. Sometimes he'll tell them that hewomen is usually sending him money and stamps on a
fail in with the wrong people and he was a victimregular basis, it is time for the final step. This usually
himself, he had no idea they were going to commit aincludes phone calls and invites her to come visit him.
crime, he was with them at the time and that is howThat he feels a connection between them and that he
he got to prison. Sometimes he'll claim he was a drugjust want the chance to talk with her in person, and to
addict and couldn't stop himself. He had lost his job,lose himself in her beautiful, caring, and understanding
family and friends but could not get off the drugs. Thateye's. To be able to tell her what she means to him
is until, he was convicted and sent to prison. Now thatthat he is unable to express with clumsy letters and
he is in his right mind and thinking clearly, he is awords written on a piece of paper.
changed person and feels bad about his victims or theIf she agrees and visits him, he'll be a perfect
crime he committed while under the influence of drugs.gentleman, sincere, caring, and understanding, attentive
He hopes that she will be his pen-pal, to give himto her wants, needs and desires. Listening to every
contact with someone that is caring and honest to helpword that flows over her lips, making her the only
him through this nightmare that he finds himself in.person in the world, and him the only one that truly
He would then insert a poem, something that would pullknows her heart. He'll tell her how beautiful her heart is
at the heart strings and would convey the feeling thatand that they are beyond the physical, that he has
he is a sensitive, caring person looking for someone tofallen in love with that person who has shared her
help him retain his humanity in an inhuman environment.heart with him, they are kindred spirits, trapped in
Usually, he would claim to have written the poem, whilecircumstances beyond their control, that she is the
sitting alone in his cell surrounded by violence in aprincess that he could only dream of being with. He
violent place where the only escape, is to put hisunderstands that he is not the right person for her and
inter-most thought's and feeling's on paper, that hethat his only desire is that she will find true happiness
cannot share with anyone but them. In reality, theand love in a cold, heartless world. After the visit he will
poem was hand copied form a magazine that cater'simmediately write her a letter, telling her how happy
to inmate's, and usually has a section where drawingsshe has made him and how he cannot sleep thinking
and poems can be sent in by inmates to be published.about her that she makes him feel like there is hope
The letter will end with a statement to the effect thatand life after prison.
he hopes she will return his letter and be a pen-pal. HeThat he dare hope there is a chance, a one in a million
knows that this will only be a long distance relationship,shot, that they would be able to make it together. That
a platonic one.he could never find a woman that can see him for
He will then explain that he has used his last stampwho he really is that knows his true heart and feelings
and envelop to write her and if it is possible, for her tothat he dare not reveal to any other person. That he is
send him some stamps and envelopes so he canunworthy to have the happiness that she could bring
continue their correspondence, or she could sendto his life, he understands that she may not be able to
$20.00 to him and he would be able to by the stampsget over his past, he understands her concerns about
and envelopes himself. If she does not write him back,him, and he could not blame her for pushing him away.
or is unable to send the envelopes or money that isHe can only hope and dream that she would give him
okay, he understands. He will then thank her for thethe chance to show her by his actions that he would
glimmer of light she has brought to him in his time ofbe the man she deserves in her life, his only concern is
need and despair, locked away from humanity in thisher true happiness.
dungeon of darkness.After several months, I finally got the opportunity to talk
After several months I began to notice a pattern. Thewith this inmate one on one. I was surprised that when
first week of the month he would send out 10 letters aI asked him about the letters, that he actually set down
day for five days. The following week the lettersand explained it to me in great detail. Inmates enjoy
would drop to one or two a night, and continue thatbeing able to talk about their scams, showing how
way until the first week of the next month and thecleaver and smart they are. He told me that in one of
process would repeat itself. The letters sent out afterthe magazine's that specifically targets inmates, you
the first week were still handwritten and were prettycould purchase a mailing list of women that wanted to
much the same in content, but would have severalcorrespond with inmates for about $ 20.00. They will
paragraphs that were personalized to the women thatsend you a list of 100 women.
he was writing. Judging from his letters, he would echo,The first week of the month he would send out 50
the interests that the women presented to him, givingletters and that usually within seven to ten days two or
the women the belief that he really cared about theirthree of the women would respond. The rest of the
thoughts and feelings and wrote to them as if theymonth he would simply answer their letters. At first it
were the only person in the world that understood him.was difficult learning what to write, but after awhile he
He would talk about how much he cared for them,became good at reading between the lines and writing
how he wished he could have met a person like themback what the women wanted to hear. He said usually
before coming to prison, they may have kept him fromthe women are lonely and feel that they would be able
traveling down that long road to prison, that his lifeto help a poor inmate and change his life. If he works it
would have been completely different. He understoodright they will send him stamps or money. At that time
that they could not have any kind of relationshiphe was making about $100.00 per month, for writing
except being his pen-pal.letters. To him it was a business, he made them feel
He hoped and dreamed that when he gets out ofgood about themselves and made them feel like they
prison he would be able to meet a women just like her.were helping someone. After all $20.00 a month is not
To share his life, to put his past behind him anda bad fee to make a person happy by giving them
become the man that he should have been, a father, awhat they wanted to hear.
husband and a provider for the needs and desires ofThe hard part was making a good enough connection
his family. If they were religious, he would tell them,where they would actually come and visit him. At this
now that because of them he had started attendingpoint he knew he had them, his new plan was to see if
Chapel, religious services' in prison, and was amazedhe could get them to help him when he got released.
at the impact those services was having on his life. HeHe had no place to stay and felt that without their help
would then have bible discussions with his new foundhe would have no choice but to become a statistic, a
pen-pal and ask her for her help in understandingparolee returned to prison. Believe it or not he actually
passages and sermons. If the women had children hehad a women that was divorced, owned her home in
would tell her how his Father was a drunk, beat himan upscale affluent neighborhood, fall in love with him
and his Mother and finally left them, and how heand wanted him to live with her when he got out.
always wanted children and swore that he would be aThe end of the story, he paroled, she picked him up
caring and loving Father, he would be everything hisand he lived with her for about six months. She
Father was not.returned home from shopping one day to find her car
The other line was how he was once married and hadgone, cash, credit cards, jewelry and the parolee
a child, but because of his addiction his wife divorcedmissing. In my 25 years with the Department of
him and moved away with his child, he does not knowCorrections in California, I have only seen one of these
where they are, but longs for the chance to make ittypes of relationships survive. In that one, they married,
right with his child, to be the Father he should havehad children, the parolee worked a regular job, got off
been. He would then tell them that because of theirparole and they stayed happily married. In my
relationship, he now realizes what he has lost andexperience 99.9% of the time it is a scam, if you want
blames only himself and prays that someday he willto take those odds, remember you were warned.
have the opportunity to be a real Father. He'll thank her